In the Home & Garden section of the other blog, I posted photos of our kalamansi tree which is now heavy with fruits. Jeanette commented that she wished she could have a kalamansi tree but their winters are too cold for it. I replied that I wished I could plant berries but our climate is too hot for them.
And that exchange made me recall a hundred similar conversations with many different people. People who live in countries with cold winters wanting to transplant themselves and their families to the tropics. People who have lived in the tropics all their lives dreaming of four seasons and winter wonderland. Married couples struggling financially to feed and educate their children. Married couples who wish they had children but couldn’t. College students who wish they were on scholarship. College students who are on scholarship but who feel the pressure to maintain high grades to retain their scholarships and wishing they could afford the expensive tuition so they wouldn’t have to rely on their scholarships and have more freedom to enjoy college life.
Is it really true that, by nature, humans are discontent with what they have and covet what they don’t? Do we really see other people’s circumstances as always better than ours?
Personally, I want things that I don’t have but I also want to retain the things that I do have. Does that make me selfish? No, because there is no intent to have things and retain what I have at the expense of others. That’s what being selfish means — being concerned only with oneself and what one wants at the expense of others.